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My husband and I have been together 10 years, married for six of those years and have a two-year old.


You made a commitment to the relationship in your mind, but not fully in your heart. So you say and do nothing, waiting for the other person Housewives seeking hot sex Hitchcock Oklahoma make a move first. But hiding or denying what you truly want and desire or passively hoping someone else will just magically give it to you neither le you to happiness nor protects you from disappointment.

You stepped into the relationship and then never knew how to step out. But ultimately, you are responsible for claiming and obtaining what you want for yourself. Subscribe to our newsletter.

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up now! Or, maybe your partner seemed like a quick ticket out of town or a way out of a bad situation you felt stuck in. Perhaps one of you is regularly asking for more, and the other is reflexively withdrawing, withholding, or acting micro-aggressively. YourTango Experts.

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Or, perhaps they offered the right family connections or wielded prominence in a certain career. Making a choice renders us vulnerable. Wanting more — out of life, out of love — makes you feel even more vulnerable to loss, failure, frustration, rejection, and disappointment.

It may feel safer to let someone else choose for you.

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How did your relationships begin? They still feel hurt. The reality is, even if you or your partner didn't truly, mindfully, and fully choose each other in that past, you still have the option of choosing each other.

Resmaa Menakem. They reach for surface answers: Sex is missing.

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2. one (or both) of you just kind of “fell” into the relationship.

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Does this sound like your relationship? It opens us up to the possibility of making a bad or wrong choice, of losing, of being rejected, or of ending up with nothing.

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